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I used to work with this mean miserable guy and there were so many times a lot of us would try to cheer him up. Share food, invite to after work drinks, movies, concerts, just include him. He never took anyone up on it, ever. After a friend of mine left that job and confronted him about his shitty attitude and self alienation, he just said, “I don’t want your pity.”
Ironically, after I heard that I stopped sympathizing and did just pity the guy.
Maybe he just didn’t want to hang out with you guys and had a perfectly fine life outside of work. Crazy, I know.
I sincerely hope he does, but I think it’s pretty sad that someone conflates kindnesses with pity.
I often don’t want to hang out with coworkers. I just politely decline if asked affirmatively. There’s no reason to decline and say, “I don’t want your pity” since I assume they’re just to be inclusive and friendly. I know a lot of people on here have a hard work/life separation, but you do have to exist with your coworkers for some portion of your life. Might as well make interactions with them pleasant.
Yeah do like Mr T. And pity the fools.
I can do both. I pity the sad man who is addicted to drugs, but also he’s a fascist campaigning for human suffering and I hate that about him.
