I would say it’s best to focus on yourself and the things that make you happy. Not to say that you can’t go after romance, but sometimes people end up worrying too and get desperate or too down on themselves and that’s typically a turn off which will ultimately work against your goal.
I did eventually end up leaving my original library for one in a blue state. Library positions don’t pay a lot and the future of libraries is very much under attack. But you do it for the passion of literacy and helping the community however you can.
Yeah I’m all about consent for what you consume but I would love to feed some people an impossible burger or a vegan “chicken” sandwich and see if they could really tell the difference.
Please support your local library. Even if you just get a card and keep it active, it helps with stats that they use to get more funding.