this is what scares me the most, because I need the money.
The requirement for a steady paycheque is what keeps everyone working in terrible conditions. I’m lucky enough that I’ve always had a lot in savings and it has come in handy a few times. Twice I’ve walked off a job and never went back after failing to negotiate proper working conditions with the boss. Both times I burned through about $10,000 in savings while searching for a new job. Almost nobody has that much saved up. If they did, terrible bosses would lose employees on the regular.
Bingo. Low paycheck is not only because of greedy bastard want all the revenue, it’s to keep poor people poor, preventing them from become a competitor. If employees live paycheck to paycheck, wear themselves out everyday, work long hours, and demoralised, they will very likely to stay. It’s learned helplessness.
Living in your car and on couches sucks. But once you hit the wall, nothing matters more then getting the fuck out of there and never going back.
I save every penny I can in case I have to switch jobs. Or I need a mental health break from this fucked up world i live in. Or i work day by day, month by month, year after year and lose a bit of myself every shift i work until there is nothing left and i lose my shit and quit.
Honestly I wonder why anyone would spend money they didn’t need to unless they had the remainder of your lives living expenses already saved up. You’re spending future rent payments, future food! Why would you spend your rent payment 10 months in the future when you could just not go to that concert? Or go on that vacation. Or buy something that isn’t essential or more extravagant then necessary.
That’s not even your money you’re spending, it’s your landed lords monthly tribute. Its the grocery stores money. Its the car repair shops money. Its the gas stations money. Its the power companies money. Its the awful internet service providers money (fuck you centurylink).
You just don’t know it yet. Or maybe deep down you do know it, and you pretend otherwise to delude yourself that you live in a free country. Doesn’t seem free to me. In fact it’s expensive as hell.
Rent is due in 4 days by the way.
How to not enjoy life
Toxic jobs really take a toll on your health, especially if you feel trapped in them. Looking for a new job is really a full time job on itself, it can be hard to do so while already working a full time job. If you feel your job is toxic you should start looking for something new right away - whether you’ve given notice or not. I’ve ended up in the hospital twice from the toll toxic jobs that I felt trapped in took on me. Another thing you can consider is diversifying your income. Ie, a “side hustle”. If you have more than one income stream you won’t be quite as trapped. You also will have something to help buffer the transition between your real jobs.
If you need the money then start looking for jobs now, and quit when you’ve got something.
This is true.
Look, the moment you know you need a new job, you’re done at the current shop. So get looking.
Don’t quit, slowdown, make them fire you, collect unemployment and get a better job
Bad advice for a toxic workplace. That’s just going to ruin your mental health.
Still, if I can drag down the mental health of management with me, that’s a win.
I see that in the bad spots, though – people are looking but not landing a new post, so they cope by doing the minimums, peacing out on the dot and getting their sleep. They no longer care about the success of the company, and while that’s admirable, it’s a social issue to abandon the tribe and it can eat on people.
I’m so happy when they land a new post, happier still if I do before I just … stop going. And that’s what I do: I lose interest in going if I can’t find a new post within the year I usually allow (I’m picky).
This last move I told my boss he had a year. It was like 13 months.
Yes but you can get money in many different ways so that’s nice.
Like what? Uber?
Nah Uber is a piece of shit. I meant like selling drugs or hookin’
I’ve never had trouble finding new work, so it hasn’t been too scary for me. Once I got laid off and found another job before the severance ran out but that job turned out to be a disaster and I got laid off there as well, only months later. That was definitely discouraging but a relief as well. I got right back on the horse.
However now things have changed a lot. I am much more senior and earning a lot more. Senior roles are fewer and more competitive. And the job market has been a disaster this year. It used to be that I’d get a couple of recruiter emails per week and now I can hardly get a response to any job applications I send. So yeah. At this point the financial hit terrifies me because I have a lot more at stake and I don’t know when I could get back to where I am if I left. I’m not miserable but I am unhappy as well as bored. For now I’m just dealing with it. I’m a little afraid to be “dealing with it” for the rest of my days though.
This is me right now. The job market has been so shit I’ve just keeping it together while trying to utilize my accumulated network of connections and start my own business.
Ooh starting your own business must be so exciting. I wish you all the luck with that.
It scared the shit out of me, but was one of the best decisions I took, on my next job I learned to impose limits from the start.
I managed to find something very soon, but if I were in a similar position nowadays I would first find something new.
He works hard for the money.
So hard for the money.
He works hard for the money, so you better fire the subordinate employee
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I think this really depends on how you quit. If you do it on an impulse, that’s gonna really roll the dice, but if you already have another job lined up and you know the financial hit can be dampened by savings or another way, you might feel a bit safer.
I just heard that my contract can’t be renewed and it runs out in March, so I’ll have too look for something. I have enough time and I already took care of everything else so I don’t have to panic anymore, but the anxiety will be there until I secured another job I’m happy with, and I just gotta deal with that.
My current job is not toxic but it does keep me on my toes and one of my bosses I can’t get along with; he is always suspicious of me and I can’t really deal with that. I just wanna do my job and not appeal to people lol.
This might be a blessing in disguise then. Hopefully you find something you like better!
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Everyone else is right. Try to line something new up first. But I was once in the position of quitting without something lined up, and the decider for me was that if I didn’t quit, I was likely to actually take my own life. It’s a matter of perspective at that point, and clearly, surviving was the better option.
I had a miserably toxic job, and, yeah, I know that pit of despair and what it does to our decisions. I opened the search to the world, but came up with a domestic job about 3000mi away.
I grabbed the go-bag and all but bugged the fuck out, quitting on a Thursday, boarding a plane on a Friday and starting my new job on the Monday. She sold the house, got the movers (fuck moving) and shepherded all our worldlies to the new place. She’s not military but she faked it really well.
Always be looking for a new job, you never know when a new boss arrives and makes it horrible.
I was not scared at all, because it was the very normal thing for me to find a new and better paying job first.
But I was lucky because that asshole boss did rarely actually show up and make my life miserable. He was too busy with making so many others miserable, too.
